I’ve been in New Zealand for about a month now, and I’ve packed a lot into this short time. The main activities have been attending classes, grocery shopping, cooking, and working out. But more than the activities, I want to reflect on my feelings and experiences over this period.
To be honest, life here has its challenges. The food isn’t as appealing as I’d hoped, there’s a limited range of activities, and the sense of safety is not as strong as back home. I hesitate to walk around at night, yet, surprisingly, I’ve fallen in love with this place!
In the 20 years of my fast-paced life, I never imagined that my 27th year would unfold like this. Just a few days ago, I was chatting with Joey, and I expressed my frustration that many of my classmates here are wealthy but not particularly sharp. She asked me, “Do you feel like your life is on a downward slope?”
Back then, we were all pushing ourselves to excel, urging each other to be the best and to elevate our circles. But since coming here, my mindset has shifted dramatically. I no longer feel the need to constantly motivate myself to keep up with the latest trends. I don’t force myself to acquire new skills just to mitigate career risks, nor do I pressure myself to understand the intricacies of funds, stocks, and policy directions.
I’ve also let go of the strict training plans and goal management that once defined my routine.
In my research, I’ve returned to a purer, more focused state. My primary energy is no longer directed towards publishing papers. Instead, I’m committed to filling the gaps in my research and ensuring that my work is genuinely valuable and meaningful.
When it comes to relationships, I’ve realized that my previous intense desire for love was rooted in emotional needs. By reflecting on my dating patterns and personality, I can see that my romantic journey will likely be a bumpy one, but I am at peace with this reality.
At 27, I’ve stepped away from the universal evaluation system and the pressures of elite culture. It’s clear that my future won’t be a smooth, golden path. Yet, I am deeply content with this life. Whether it’s an uphill or downhill road, I am certain that this is the path I chose, and this is the path I want to follow.
It sounds like you’re having a mixed experience in New Zealand. The routine activities seem fulfilling, but I can understand how the food and safety concerns might feel challenging. Have you found any local spots or hobbies that make it more enjoyable?
Thank you for your thoughtful comment! Yes, while there are challenges like food options and safety, exploring local hiking trails and trying out unique outdoor activities have really made my time here special. Discovering small, hidden cafes in lesser-known neighborhoods also added a lot of joy. I’m glad you asked—adventure is everywhere if you’re open to finding it!